"You are worth so much more!"
We have all said that in our lifetime, men and women alike. I know I used to say it constantly to my friends. Some of whom I think may read this and think its partially about them. If that is how you feel then I think , my friend, you need to hear what I have to say. don't take it personally, but do think on this.
How often are we telling people that they deserve better than what they have? How often are we judging others relationships? How often are we judging our friend's significant others because we feel they aren't good enough?
I caught myself this morning saying "I never thought of myself being worth anything". I actually said it OUT LOUD! After thinking for quite some time on this I realized that I am constantly telling people that they are worth so much more in life. That they deserve everything their little heart desires and that they can make it happen. I have watched people close to me struggle with their own inner demons. I have done everything I can to show these people that they are loved, and that they have WORTH. I preach this constantly!
"I never thought of myself as being worth anything."
Holy crap. I can't believe I actually voiced that.
I was raised better than that. I was raised to take over the world through paint, color and music (and probably something way more practical but I forgot what that was). Somehow along the way I lost that.
Now I can sit here and play "victim". It was a bad relationship. I was bullied. (I had a bad hair day) hell, I could use a lot worse examples of being victimized. But I am not going to. I am not a victim. I did this to myself.
My only simple question is how? How could I. (And I mean I! Me! Myself!) How could I have let myself fall so short in my own expectations? The same expectations I expect everyone else to have for themselves. Everyone has to be a freaking tiger (I've got the eye of the tiger....oops sorry...) except me.
I honestly see this over and over again in my day to day life. I tell someone they are worth more, they tell me they know. Then I watch them basically say the same damn thing to me a mere week later. Why are we so harsh? I feel like we need to start taking a step back (you too. you know who you are) and evaluate if we feel we have what we deserve. Think on how we feel about ourselves. Not to say that we shouldn't remind people that they are worth their weight in gold, but maybe just show them that they are worth so much to US, instead of being better than what we think is flawed. I see a lot of people who have the same issue. They have the same flaws but don't expect better for them.
I know it's time for me to take a step back and figure out my own worth. And not what I'm worth to others. I'm talking what am I worth to me.
No More Exceptions!
-B
